“It is the very pursuit of happiness that thwarts happiness.”

This interesting article in Atlantic, “There’s More to Life Than Being Happy” is shared by Mirza Ashraf;

Some excerpts from article.

“In September 1942, Viktor Frankl, a prominent Jewish psychiatrist and neurologist in Vienna, was arrested and transported to a Nazi concentration camp with his wife and parents. Three years later, when his camp was liberated, most of his family, including his pregnant wife, had perished — but he, prisoner number 119104, had lived. In his bestselling 1946 book, Man’s Search for Meaning, which he wrote in nine days about his experiences in the camps, Frankl concluded that the difference between those who had lived and those who had died came down to one thing: Meaning, an insight he came to early in life. When he was a high school student, one of his science teachers declared to the class, “Life is nothing more than a combustion process, a process of oxidation.” Frankl jumped out of his chair and responded, “Sir, if this is so, then what can be the meaning of life?”

“Most importantly from a social perspective, the pursuit of happiness is associated with selfish behavior — being, as mentioned, a “taker” rather than a “giver.” The psychologists give an evolutionary explanation for this: happiness is about drive reduction. If you have a need or a desire — like hunger — you satisfy it, and that makes you happy. People become happy, in other words, when they get what they want. Humans, then, are not the only ones who can feel happy. Animals have needs and drives, too, and when those drives are satisfied, animals also feel happy, the researchers point out.”

“Happy people get a lot of joy from receiving benefits from others while people leading meaningful lives get a lot of joy from giving to others,” explained Kathleen Vohs, one of the authors of the study, in a recent presentation at the University of Pennsylvania. In other words, meaning transcends the self while happiness is all about giving the self what it wants. People who have high meaning in their lives are more likely to help others in need. “If anything, pure happiness is linked to not helping others in need,” the researchers write.”

“What sets human beings apart from animals is not the pursuit of happiness, which occurs all across the natural world, but the pursuit of meaning, which is unique to humans, according to Roy Baumeister, the lead researcher of the study and author, with John Tierney, of the recent book Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength. Baumeister, a social psychologists at Florida State University, was named an ISI highly cited scientific researcher in 2003.”

Read Full article:

: http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/01/theres-more-to-life-than-being-happy/266805/

‘The Blessings Of Atheism’ By Susan Jacoby

It is a worth reading article by Susan Jacoby, an atheist. She encourages atheists to show their positive, emotional and softer side. In the last few days, we heard atheism mostly based on negativism and vile attacks on religion.Viler the attacks, higher the slogans of Bravo and praise!

I think she should have condemned the extreme views of atheists like Dawkins and Hitchens. Unfortunately most of the views and tone of the language we heard in our Forum was closer to Dawkins. I have difference of opinion with author’s views, but I appreciate her demeanor and approach.( F. Sheikh)

Some excerpts;

“It is a positive blessing, not a negation of belief, to be free of what is known as the theodicy problem. Human “free will” is Western monotheism’s answer to the question of why God does not use his power to prevent the slaughter of innocents, and many people throughout history (some murdered as heretics) have not been able to let God off the hook in that fashion.

The atheist is free to concentrate on the fate of this world — whether that means visiting a friend in a hospital or advocating for tougher gun control laws — without trying to square things with an unseen overlord in the next. Atheists do not want to deny religious believers the comfort of their faith. We do want our fellow citizens to respect our deeply held conviction that the absence of an afterlife lends a greater, not a lesser, moral importance to our actions on earth.

Today’s atheists would do well to emulate some of the great 19th-century American freethinkers, who insisted that reason and emotion were not opposed but complementary.”

The author talks about Robert Ingersoll, the Great Agnostic of 19th century.

“He also frequently delivered secular eulogies at funerals and offered consolation that he clearly considered an important part of his mission. In 1882, at the graveside of a friend’s child, he declared: “They who stand with breaking hearts around this little grave, need have no fear. The larger and the nobler faith in all that is, and is to be, tells us that death, even at its worst, is only perfect rest … The dead do not suffer.”

“We must speak up as atheists in order to take responsibility for whatever it is humans are responsible for — including violence in our streets and schools. We need to demonstrate that atheism is rooted in empathy as well as intellect. And although atheism is not a religion, we need community-based outreach programs so that our activists will be as recognizable to their neighbors as the clergy.”

“Finally, we need to show up at gravesides, as Ingersoll did, to offer whatever consolation we can.”

To read full article click on link below;

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/01/06/opinion/sunday/the-blessings-of-atheism.html?pagewanted=1&ref=general&src=me

Posted by F. Sheikh

 

Naya Saal by Mirza Ashraf

2013

اے مرغِ سحر دہر میں اک شور مچا ہے
یہ صبح نئی دن ہے نیا سال نیا ہے

اور شام کے ڈھلتے ہی چراغاں کا سماں ہے
جیسے کہ نئے سال میں حسنِ رخِ جاناں ہے

انداز تیری بانگِ سحر کا تو وہی ہے
روشن صبح صادق کا ستارہ بھی وہی ہے

سورج بھی وہی چاند ستار ے بھی وہی ہیں
یہ دھوپ یہ سائے یہ نظارے بھی وہی ہیں

گردوں کے شب و روز اشارے بھی وہی ہیں
ظالم بھی وہی ظلم کے مارے بھی وہی ہیں

ہر لمحے سے وابستہ وہی بیم و رجا ہے
حیراں ہوں نئے سال میں کیا ہے جو نیا ہے

گردن جو اُٹھا کر دی اذاں مرغِ سحر نے
اظہار کیا لطفِ خودی اس کی نظر نے

اک حسن ِسحر ہے میری ہر بانگِ سحَر میں
ہر روز ہے اُمید نئی اس کے سحِر میں

اشرف میں بتاتا ہوں نئے سال میں کیا ہے
اُمید نئی ہے جو نئے سال کا مژدہ ہے

کھول آنکھ زمیں دیکھ فلک دیکھ فضا دیکھ
مشرق سے اُبھرتے ہوے سورج کو ذرا دیکھ

اشرف

Why Atheists Send Their Children to Religious Centers?(New Question)

It has been opined by the atheists that the religion is harmful for society at large in general, and for young children in particular, who are force fed harmful ideology. Then the natural question is-why atheists send their children to Religious Centers? Why this contradiction?

I do not know about other religious communities, but I am talking about Muslim community. I personally know three families in Muslim community, who (one or both parents) do not believe in God and attack religion ferociously, but all three of them send their children to Islamic Centers. I am sure some of the participants also know some such families in their communities.

Let me suggest possible reasons behind it, and participants can write their comments;

1- They think it is ok to have atheist believes themselves, but not good idea for children?

2- They are hedging their bets?

3- They are afraid that the children and they themselves might get isolated from the community?

4-    Under pressure from grandparents of children?

5-    One parent (usually mother) wants to take children to Islamic Center, but other (usually father) with atheism views faintly grumbles but does not stop it? ( He usually fights with teachers and management)

6-    When it comes to girls, no matter how strong atheism views of parents, mostly both parents’ wants to send them to Islamic Centers?

7-    No matter how viciously they attack religion, the parents still believe Islamic Center is still good place for children to learn some morals and values?

If some atheist feel so strongly against religion, as the comments on our website suggest, then why compromise on any of the above grounds? Of course it is not true for all atheists in all Muslim communities, but it is true about all three families I am familiar with.

Happy New Year!

Fayyaz