The Dhammapada-Concept of Happiness

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Author and Psychologist at the University of Virginia discusses the concept of Happiness. Suggests that an understanding of how difficult it is to change oneself promotes an attitude of tolerance, empathy towards others.

Tell me why you started with the sayings of the Buddha.

The Dhammapada is one of the greatest psychological works ever written, and certainly one of the greatest before 1900. It is masterful in its understanding of the nature of consciousness, and in particular the way we are always striving and never satisfied. You can turn to it – and people have turned to it throughout the ages – at times of trouble, at times of disappointment, at times of loss, and it takes you out of yourself. It shows you that your problems, your feelings, are just timeless manifestations of the human condition. It also gives specific recommendations for how to deal with those problems, which is to let go, to accept, and to work on yourself. So I think this is a kind of tonic that we ambitious Westerners often need to hear.

Is there a specific saying that you particularly like?

There are two big ideas that I found especially useful when I wrote The Happiness Hypothesis. One is an idea common to most great intellectual traditions. The quote is: ‘All that we are arises with our thoughts, with our thoughts we make the world.’ It’s not unique to Buddha, but it is one of the earliest statements of that idea, that we need to focus on changing our thoughts, rather than making the world conform to our wishes.

The other big idea is that the mind is like a rider on an elephant. Buddha uses this metaphor: ‘My own mind used to wander wherever pleasure or desire or lust led it, but now I have it tamed, I guide it, as the keeper guides the wild elephant.’ That’s the most important idea inThe Happiness Hypothesis – I just adapted the metaphor slightly. What modern psychology shows us is that our minds are like a small rider on the back of an elephant: the rider doesn’t have that much control even though he thinks that he does.

And once you accept that you are much closer to understanding happiness?

Exactly, because it helps explain why you can’t just resolve to be happy. You can’t just resolve to quit drinking, you can’t resolve to stop and smell the flowers – because the rider does the resolving but it’s the elephant that does the behaving. Once you understand the limitations of your psychology and how hard it is to change yourself, you become much more tolerant of others, because you realise how difficult it is to change anyone…

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http://fivebooks.com/interviews/jonathan-haidt-on-happiness

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MEMORIES OF TAKSIM SQUARE

An article by Orhan Pamuk in The New Yorker about current protests and memories of Taksim Square, Istanbul.

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In order to make sense of the protests in Taksim Square, in Istanbul, this week, and to understand those brave people who are out on the street, fighting against the police and choking on tear gas, I’d like to share a personal story. In my memoir, “Istanbul,” I wrote about how my whole family used to live in the flats that made up the Pamuk apartment block, in Nişantaşı. In front of this building stood a fifty-year-old chestnut tree, which is thankfully still there. In 1957, the municipality decided to cut the tree down in order to widen the street. The presumptuous bureaucrats and authoritarian governors ignored the neighborhood’s opposition. When the time came for the tree to be cut down, our family spent the whole day and night out on the street, taking turns guarding it. In this way, we not only protected our tree but also created a shared memory, which the whole family still looks back on with pleasure, and which binds us all together.

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http://www.newyorker.com/online/blogs/books/2013/06/memories-of-a-public-square.html

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Shattering of Faith in the View of Philosophers and Psychologists

SHATTERING OF FAITH IN THE VIEW OF PHILOSOPHERS & PSYCHOLOGISTS

According the British philosopher, F.R. Tennant (1866-1957), “Faith
or trust is an outcome of the inborn propensity to self-conservation and
self-betterment which is a part of human nature, and is no more a miraculously
superadded endowment than is sensation or understanding.” He suggests that
“much of the belief which underlies knowledge … is the outcome of faith
which ventures beyond the apprehension and treatment of data to supposition,
imagination and creation of ideal objects, and justifies its audacity and
irrationality (in accounting them to be also real) by practical actualization. Faith
of this kind may be religious, or it may be religious without being theistic,
of course, as in classical Buddhism. But there may also be non-religious faith:
in particular, ‘scientific’ atheists may be making a faith-venture when they
take there to be no more to reality than is in principle discoverable by the
natural sciences. The suggestion that atheism rests on a faith-venture will,
however, be strongly resisted by those who maintain ‘the presumption of atheism.’
An atheist’s faith-venture may, however, seem oddly so described because it
provides no basis for practical hope or trust.” (Stanford Encyclopedia of
Philosophy).
Dr. Eric Fromm (1900-1980), a psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, and philosopher in his book

“The Heart of Man: Its Genius for Good and Evil,” in 2nd chapter mentions
four malignant forms of destructiveness, Playful Violence, Reactive Violence,
Revengeful Violence and SHATTERING OF FAITH. He describes on page 28:
“Closely related to revengeful violence is a source of destructiveness
which is due to “Shattering of Faith” which often occurs in the life
of a child. What is meant here by the “shattering of faith?” A child
starts life with faith in goodness, love, justice. The infant has faith in his
mother’s breasts, in her readiness to cover him when he is cold, to comfort him
when he is sick. This faith can be faith in father, mother, in a grandparent,
or in any other person close to him; it can be expressed as faith in God. In
many individual this faith is shattered at an early age. The child hears father
lying in an important matter; he sees his cowardly fright of mother, ready to
betray him (the child) in order to appease her; he witnesses the parent’s
sexual intercourse, and may experience father as a brutal beast; he is unhappy
or frightened, and neither one of the parents, who are allegedly so concerned
for him, notices it, or even if he tells them, pays any attention. There are
any number of times when original faith in love, truthfulness, justice of the
parents is shattered. Sometimes, in children who are brought up religiously,
the loss of faith refers directly to God. A child experiences the death of a
little bird he loves, or a friend, or of a sister, and his faith in God as
being good and just is shattered. But it does not make much difference whether
it is faith in a person or in God which is shattered. It is always the faith in
life, in the possibility of trusting it, of having confidence in it, which is
broken. It is of course true that every child goes through a number of
disillusionments; but what matters is the sharpness and severity of a
particular disappointment. Often this first and crucial experience of
shattering of faith takes place at an early age: at four, five, six, or even
much earlier, at a period of life about which there is little memory. Often the
final shattering of faith takes place at a much later age. Being betrayed by a
friend, by a sweat-heart, by a teacher, by a religious or political leader in
whom one had trust. Seldom it is one single occurrence, but rather a number of
small experiences which cumulatively shatter a person’s faith. . . . In my
clinical experience these deep-seated experiences of loss of faith are
frequent, and often constitute the most significant leitmotiv [recurring theme]
in the life of a person.”
Since every child is born with a blank slate, and it is his parents who make him a Jew, a Christian, a Muslim, or a Hindu, etc., it is also the parents who are responsible for
shattering the faith of the child. The child, when grown up and is free from
parental or social pressure, and now revengeful to childhood perceptions
retained in his subconscious, loses his faith on God, on religion, on parents,
on humanity, and any other institutions like a school, a madrassa or a mosque/church, or business concern. Shattering of faith on humanity is a most dangerous form as it can produce Hitlers and Stalins.

Mirza Ashraf

 

What Happens to Women Who Are Denied Abortions?

A worth reading article in NYT By Joshua Lang

Photo by Michelle Asselin for NYT

Some excerpts;

S. arrived alone at a Planned Parenthood in Richmond, Calif., four days before Christmas. As she filled out her paperwork, she looked at the women around her. Nearly all had someone with them; S. wondered if they also felt terrible about themselves or if having someone along made things easier. She began to cry quietly. She kept reminding herself that she felt secure in her decision. “I knew that that was going to be the right-wrong thing to do,” she told me later. “I was ready for it.”

After S. urinated in a cup, she was led into a small room. She texted one of her sisters, “Do you think God would forgive me if I were to murder my unborn child?” It was the first time anyone in her family knew she was pregnant.

“Where are you?” her sister asked. “Are you O.K.?”

“I’m at Planned Parenthood, about to have an abortion.”

“God knows your heart, and I understand that you are not ready,” her sister texted back. “I think God will understand.”

The pregnancy had crept up on S. She was a strong believer in birth control — in high school she was selected to help teach sex education. But having been celibate for months and strapped for cash, she stopped taking the pill. Then an ex-boyfriend came around. For months after, she had only a little spotting, but because her periods are typically light, she didn’t think much of it at first. Then she started to worry. “I used to press on my stomach really hard thinking maybe it would make my period come,” she said.

Around Thanksgiving in 2011, S., then 24, took her first pregnancy test — a home kit from Longs Drugs. S. (her first initial) lived alone, with her dog and her parrot, and it was late at night when she read the results. She stared into space, past the plastic stick. She’d never been pregnant before. “I cried. I was heartbroken.” Her ex had begun a new relationship, and she knew he wouldn’t be there to support her or a child. She was working five part-time jobs to keep herself afloat and still didn’t always have enough money for proper meals. How could she feed a baby? She kept the news to herself and made an appointment at Planned Parenthood.

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http://www.nytimes.com/2013/06/16/magazine/study-women-denied-abortions.html?pagewanted=all